Submitting Letters & Questions

Please email your letters or questions to submissions<AT>dearpbj<DOT>com. Let me know if you want to use your first name, initials, or a pseudonym to sign the letter. If you don’t indicate a preference, I’ll use your first name or initials.  I promise to keep your identity and contact information secret and secure unless you expressly tell me it’s ok to reveal it.

Letters or questions can be as short as a few sentences but try to limit them to 1,000 words or less.

Ultimately, this blog (and the book on male advocacy forthcoming) is about changing fair-minded men’s frame of reference so they can be more effective allies and advocates. As you write your submissions, please feel free to share what others could have done better, what they just didn’t get, or if there was something we can learn from the experience. My hope over time is that this blog will host a chorus of conversations from working women, minorities, and LGBTQ folks. Yes, and even men. Together, our voices will be loud enough to send a clear message to company leaders about what needs to be done; white men need to ‘lean in’ if they are serious about making workplaces more fair.

If your letter or question is selected, it may be edited a bit. Rest assured, we will send you any edits for prior approval before publishing. At some point, we may organize blog posts by topic or tagline to ease navigation by our readers. Below is the legal part, so pay attention and read up:

  • By submitting your letter or question, you promise the content is not plagiarized nor are the events or fictionalized (however, changing names of people and companies, dates, etc. in order to protect confidentiality of the parties is ok).
  • By submitting your letter or question, you have given a non-exclusive, royalty free, worldwide, perpetual right to publish, display, and keep the content on or other website created by the owners of
  • You also agree your letter (or parts thereof) may be selected for publication in books, ebooks, podcasts, audiobooks, articles, presentations, videos, training materials or other formats designed to advance and promote male advocacy in workplaces. By submitting you are expressly saying, “I am ok with that and grant a non-exclusive, royalty free, worldwide, perpetual right to publish and display the letter (or parts thereof) to the owners of”

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